It wasn't his name, but I don't care to identify him and give him more grief than what he's already in for.
I met Bill watching over him while working a prisoner shift at a "place."
Over the course of these shifts we get to know the prisoners if they're the talkative types quite well. And Bill was talkative.
He had himself a girlfriend. Thought he was in love. Until he came home one day and she was with another guy. Bill went into a rage, thus leading to the opportunity for Bill and I to get acquainted. Turns out this has happened before to Bill. Not specifically that he came home and caught his girl cheating, but that women would date him for a while and then leave him for another man.
What was interesting, however, was that though Bill was no saint, he was no grandiose sinner either. He was also quite personable, seemed sane, and after talking to him for 8 hours I got the impression it was unfortunate events like this that landed him in the slammer. Theoretically, I wondered, if the first girl hadn't done this to him years back, would he have gone down this path and would we have ever become acquainted? Regardless, I could not see why this guy would have girls leave him for other men so regularly.
One other thing about Bill, he was black.
Now before we let the brainwashing the socialist public schools, media and society have forced on us to immediately have a knee jerk reaction and start slinging accusations of racism around please shut up, engage your adult mind, and listen, for this is an important point I'm trying to make and has a lesson in it for all of us.
So my little detective brain started to piece together a theory. Bill was short, wasn't terribly successful in life, was a little younger than myself. So I took a gamble:
"How tall was the guy she left you for?"
Bill said, "I don't know, 6'."
"Have all the guys girls have left you for been taller?"
"Yeah, pretty much," he said.
And so I said to myself "hmmmm...."
WAs this proof positive of hypergamy running rampant in our society? Proof positive that the women that dumped Bill for other men wanted to date taller fellows?
No, but it was yet another bit of anecdotal evidence that would raise a brow and an anecdote that made me think some things through for our black brothers as Bill drifted off to sleep for the next 6 hours.
"Hypergamy" if you are unaware of, is the theory/fact (depending on who you ask) that women like to marry "up." They want a guy who makes more money, who has a higher status, who drives a nicer car, etc. etc. Because it suggests women (in general) have less-than-pure or ulterior motives, it is thus taboo to suggest a thing in
Is hypergamy "wrong" or even "bad?" No, it's a fact of life, it is the nature of women. It is a naturally developed trait that has evolved for good reason over the eons, a reason we may not fully understand.
However, when hypergamy is combined with societal, sociological or political changes, it can spell disaster. And such is the case for our black brothers.
Understand the single most important thing in life is other human beings. They are the most advanced, dynamic and changing entities on the planet. Again, you can have the latest version of Grand Theft Auto with the most advanced X-Box system, it pales in comparison to another human being that is not a finite or programmed entity. It is because humans are changing, dynamic and mentally infinite, you can love them. Be it either your children (who will continue to amaze you with their antics, advancements, and mental wonderings) or your friends (who challenge your thought, stimulate your mind and provide you comradery) you can establish a personal relationship with them, a relationship you cannot establish with an inanimate object. However, more important than all that is the relationship you will have with your spouse/loved one. It is a different love and one that is not rivaled and is one of the key sources of happiness. And thus why women are so important to men in life.
However, if you wish to attract a quality woman, all the wonderful personality in the world will not matter. You need to accept and incorporate the reality of hypergamy into your strategy otherwise you will fail. This is a good thing for it forces men to strive and work hard. It forces them to create, innovate, discipline and improve themselves so that they may have a wonderful woman in their life. Matter of fact, you could make a very reasonable claim that nearly all advances and creations in society are at least partly due to hypergamy. Regardless, the instinctual, biologically hard-wired rules are that men must strive, produce, and succeed in life to attract a quality woman.
But what if extraneous sociological, psychological or even political factors are combined with the hypergamous nature of women and disturb this natural balance? What if something were to happen to society where women's hypergamy was tinkered with? There is no "what if." It's happening in American black culture today.
What we have today (in the black community) is "hyper-hypergamy." Women are no longer satisfied with a hard working electrician or a mild-mannered accountant. They are not satisfied with a stable guy, with regular income. They are not satisfied with a regular Joe who works hard and does his best. Media, society, and other sociological entities have created in their minds the idea that it's "a rap star or nothing." That it's a "professional athlete" or nothing. This puts the VAST majority of black men (and boys) in an impossible situation.
They simply can't compete.
How does Bill compete with Kanye West?
How does the average black man compete with LeBron James?
How does the local average high school black boy compete with his drug-dealing counterpart glorified in rap videos and media?
They don't have millions. They don't have fame. Just like every other race, the vast majority of them are just regular schmoes like us. Not rock stars, not athletes, not movie stars.
But there is another entity black men are competing against for the affect of their ladies that puts the likes of LeBron James to shame and makes Kanye West look like a putz. Matter of fact, you could take all of the athletes, rock stars, rap stars, and romanticized thugs, purify their "higher status" and breed a genetically modified "super-athlete-rap-star-alpha Denzel Washington" type and it would still pale in comparison to this irresistible entity. And truth be told, it was what instigated black women to go into "hyper-hypergamy" in the first place and (in my humble opinion) is the core of the cause for black's relative "last place" in society
The federal government or "the state."
Understand the state has decimated the black community by corrupting hypergamy in women in three ways.
First, in in the state providing the basics in terms of food, clothing and shelter, women no longer need a man for these basic necessities. Normally and historically, this was provided by the man, but with these necessities taken care of, women can now afford to demand even more from their men.
"What, you're just going to provide me a house, pay for my food, and pay for utilities? Barack Obama and the state already does that! What ELSE are you going to bring to the table?"
This puts black men in a nearly impossible situation because black men have simply been replaced by the government. Since the man's job WAS to provide a stable living, providing things like food, clothing, shelter, etc., with that gone these men must go into hyperdrive and outperform in other areas (fame, athleticism, brute display of strength, etc.). Mathematically, only a certain amount of men can become professional athletes, rap stars, or what have you. The rest, sadly, "die trying."
Second, it is IMPOSSIBLE to compete against the government. The government has TRILLIONS of dollars every year that politicians are only more than willing to spend on women and children. How does the average black man with a respectable $17/hour job compete against Barack Obama promising trillions of dollars for black women and their children? And worse still, while the Kobe Bryants and Kanye Wests of the world will attract the hottest and top females in the black community, the federal government sops up the remaining 99% of regular women that regular men would have normally attracted, leaving the vast majority of regular Joe black men destitute, lacking romantic meaning in life, and without families of their own. And without that, what incentive does your average black man have to go and make something of himself?
Third, this government entitlement/subsidy WORSENS the quality and caliber of women. Whereas a husband or potential suitor in the past would hold their wives or potential spouses to certain standards, the state holds them to none. Worse still, the worse-behaved and more screwed up you are, the MORE the state will provide for you. This only reinforces low-quality behavior and in a cartel-like way, lowers the quality men get to choose from.
Now, while I am focusing on black men, don't for a second think it only applies to them. Understand I only highlight them because it is our black brothers who are furthest down this rabbit hole.
If you look at illegitimate births (or any other sociological ailment) as a proxy for the level at which the government is replacing men, "sugar daddy government" is, frankly, stealing all races of all men's women at an increasing pace. Whites, latinos, indians, you name it. Ergo, this is not a "black" problem, it is a problem for all men (and truthfully) all women. It's just the likes of Bill are the proverbial canary in the mine shaft.